致家長、同行與行業同仁的一封信(A Letter to Parents, Colleagues, and the Martial Arts Community)

Grace Yan

在比賽來臨前，我們談談“公平”這件事親愛的家長朋友們、同行教練與賽事組織方：還有一周，孩子們即將走上比賽的舞臺。每一次比賽都是一次檢驗，一次鍛煉，一次期待，也可能是一場磨練。但在這份期待之外，我想坦誠說一句心里話——去年的比賽經歷中，曾出現的裁判偏差與組織混亂，不僅影響了比賽結果，更動搖了很多孩子對武術的熱情與信心。我原本有一支訓練穩定、拼勁十足的中學隊伍，在那次比賽后，逐漸將武術從“熱愛”變成了“鍛煉工具”，把它從“夢想”變成了“過渡選項”。這種改變，讓我既心疼，也警覺：如果比賽變成了孩子們信念流失的起點，我們是否該停下來，重新檢視這個平臺的價值？ Before the Competition Begins, Let’s Talk About FairnessDear parents, fellow coaches, and event organizers,In just one week, our students will step onto the competition floor. Every competition is a test, a challenge, and a chance to grow—and sometimes, a moment of disappointment.With that in mind, I’d like to speak honestly. Last year’s competition included some clear instances of inconsistency and unfairness in judging and event management. These issues didn’t just affect results—they shook the confidence and passion of many young athletes.I had a dedicated, motivated middle school team who, after that experience, gradually lost interest in martial arts as a competitive pursuit. They began to see it as merely physical exercise—not a dream to follow, but just another option. This shift deeply concerned me. It made me realize: if competitions become the reason students lose faith, we must pause and reflect on the true value of this platform. 比賽是孩子們展示努力的平臺，也是我們成年人體現責任的平臺我們都知道，比賽不可能十全十美，裁判也不是機器。但哪怕無法做到“絕對完美”，我們是否能共同努力，建立起“相對公平”的底線？ ? 公正一致的裁判組合； ? 透明的評分與流程； ? 及時回應異議的機制； ? 對孩子成長導向的重視，而非只看結果的獎項排列。這些，才是讓一個賽事真正有生命、有未來的基礎。 Competitions Are a Stage for Young Effort—And Adult ResponsibilityWe all understand that no event is perfect, and referees are human. But even if absolute perfection is impossible, we can still strive for a baseline of relative fairness. That includes: ? Balanced and consistent judging panels ? Transparent scoring systems and procedures ? Clear responses to disputes or confusion ? A focus on development and learning, not just medal countsOnly with these elements can a competition truly build trust, growth, and long-term integrity. 家長的角色，不只是陪伴，更是守護親愛的家長朋友們，這次比賽，可能孩子會遇到順利，也可能再次遭遇挫折。但我想邀請您——不把比賽當作評判孩子價值的標準，而是看作他們內在成長的過程。我們可以問孩子： ? “你有沒有盡全力？” ? “你有沒有照顧別人、為團隊盡心？” ? “在面對委屈時，你有沒有調節情緒？” ? “明知不完美，你還愿意熱愛嗎？”這，就是最好的教育。 Parents Are Not Just Supporters—They Are ProtectorsDear parents, this weekend your children may experience both success and frustration. I invite you to see this not as a measure of their worth, but as a part of their personal journey.You can ask your child: ? “Did you give your full effort?” ? “Did you support your teammates?” ? “When something didn’t go as expected, how did you handle it?” ? “Even when things weren’t perfect, do you still love what you do?”This is the real education. 家長不只是觀眾，更是賽事公平的守護者我們也誠摯地希望，家長不僅是孩子比賽路上的陪伴者，更能成為賽事的監督者和建設者。在制度仍需完善的階段，家長的反饋、觀察與發聲，是推動比賽走向更規范、更透明的重要力量。當我們愿意一起提出問題、記錄問題、反饋問題，我們就在幫助賽事組織者看見盲區，幫助規則成長。孩子在賽場上成長，大人也可以在觀賽中承擔責任。我們不是站在對立面，而是希望在同一條路上，共同打造一個——孩子值得投入、家長愿意信任、教練愿意堅持的武術平臺。 Parents as Advocates for a Better Competition CultureWe also believe that parents can be more than spectators. You can be advocates and stewards of fairness.While the competition system is still evolving, your observations, feedback, and questions are vital to shaping a more accountable and transparent event structure.When we speak up together—with respect and clarity—we help organizers notice blind spots and inspire positive change.As children grow on the competition floor, we too grow in how we protect and shape the environment around them.We are not standing on opposite sides—we’re walking the same path. Let’s build a tournament platform where students feel proud, parents feel confident, and coaches feel supported. 寫給行業：我們一起建立值得信賴的平臺武術是一項立身立德、修心修行的運動。比賽不只是“贏”，更是一個價值觀的舞臺。如果我們失去了公正，失去了尊重孩子努力的態度，再多的獎牌，也只是空殼。我們想要的不只是一場熱鬧的賽事，而是一個讓孩子們愿意堅持、愿意熱愛的行業。希望今年的比賽，不僅比出成績，更比出信任、比出公正。這需要組織方的用心，教練們的堅守，家長的理解——也需要我們每一個從業者的良知與擔當。讓我們共同守護：一個值得孩子們熱愛的武術世界。 To the Industry: Let’s Build a Platform Worth Believing InMartial arts is more than a sport—it is a path of character, discipline, and heart. Competitions are not just about “winning.” They are a reflection of values.If we lose fairness and respect, then medals become hollow.We don’t just want a big event—we want a meaningful one. One that inspires, uplifts, and guides our next generation.Let this year’s competition show more than skill.Let it reflect trust, fairness, and integrity.Let us work together to protect a martial arts world our children will be proud to grow into. 公平公正，是行業可持續發展的根基在任何一個行業的發展中，公平與公正不僅是一種理想狀態，更是一種結構性力量。它像空氣，看似無形，卻時時刻刻影響著整個行業的生態與走向。在教育、競技、藝術、體育等與“人成長”密切相關的領域中，公平公正的價值更顯突出。它不僅決定一場評比或一項結果，更決定著一個人——特別是孩子——是否愿意繼續堅持、繼續相信、繼續熱愛。 1. 公平公正是“信任”的源頭只有在公平的制度下，參與者才會相信自己的努力是有意義的，才敢于全力以赴，不擔心被忽視或被誤判。當信任建立，行業才可能形成良性循環：更多人愿意投入、更多人才愿意留下、更多資源愿意進入。 2. 公平公正是“激勵”的動力如果優秀得不到應有的肯定，努力看不到應有的回報，行業會變得冷漠、犬儒，真正熱愛的人也會慢慢沉默甚至退出。而公正的環境會讓人產生“我可以靠實力走下去”的信心，從而激發長期的熱情與韌性。 3. 公平公正是“規范”的基礎行業在初期可以靠熱情發展，但走得長遠，必須依賴明確、透明、公開的評判機制。規則清晰，執行一致，不僅可以減少內耗，更能避免人際之間的紛爭與猜疑，讓行業的發展走向專業化、系統化。 4. 公平公正最終造就“文化”與“尊重”一個行業的氣質，取決于它如何對待每一位參與者。如果我們能讓每個孩子、每位教練、每個家庭都感受到尊重和公正，這個行業所建立的不只是“成績”，而是一種有溫度、有格局的精神文化。 公平公正，不只是比賽的規則，更是一個行業是否值得信賴、值得托付、值得熱愛的根本。一個真正長久的行業，不靠運氣，也不靠關系，而是靠一個個愿意相信它、愿意守護它的人，一起建立起來的公平秩序。 Fairness and Justice: The Foundation for Sustainable Industry GrowthIn any industry, fairness and justice are not just ideals—they are structural forces that determine the long-term health and vitality of the system. Like the air we breathe, they may be invisible, but they influence every decision, every participant, and every outcome.In fields closely tied to human development—like education, competition, the arts, and sports—the value of fairness is even more pronounced. It not only determines who wins or loses, but more importantly, whether a person—especially a young person—chooses to keep going, keep believing, and keep loving what they do. 1. Fairness builds trustOnly in a fair system will participants believe their efforts matter. They will dare to give their best, without fear of being overlooked or misjudged.Trust fuels a healthy cycle—more people stay involved, talent continues to emerge, and greater support flows into the industry. 2. Fairness motivates effortWhen excellence goes unrecognized or hard work is consistently dismissed, disillusionment sets in.But when fairness prevails, people are inspired to improve. They think: “If I keep growing, I can succeed through my own merit.”This sense of possibility fuels long-term commitment and passion. 3. Fairness creates structureAn industry can be built on passion in its early stages—but to sustain itself, it must rely on clear, transparent, and consistent rules.When standards are well-defined and applied equally, the system runs more efficiently, and unnecessary conflicts or suspicions are reduced.This is the path to true professionalism. 4. Fairness shapes culture and earns respectThe true spirit of an industry is reflected in how it treats its people.When fairness is the norm, every child, every coach, every family feels seen and respected.This builds more than just results—it creates a culture of integrity, dignity, and inspiration. In summary:Fairness and justice are not just competition rules—they are the very reason an industry is worth trusting, worth participating in, and worth dedicating ourselves to.A strong, lasting system is not built on luck or connections. It is built by people who choose to believe in it—and choose to uphold it together. 面對失落，你怎么調節？怎么轉化？1. 面對失落時，先接住情緒“我知道你很難過，那是因為你真的很在意、很努力。”不是急著讓孩子“不要難過”，而是先肯定他們的感受——情緒被理解了，心才會慢慢放松。?2. 情緒安穩后，引導他們轉化看法“我們不一定控制得了結果，但我們可以控制面對的樣子。”“真正的成長，是在‘不是最理想的時候’，還能走下去。”引導孩子看到：失落不是終點，而是通往成熟的一扇門。?3. 提供內在的成長坐標，而非外在比較“你有沒有比上一次更冷靜？有沒有在想放棄時繼續堅持了一下？”“你學到的東西，是不是可以用在下一次？”讓孩子明白：失敗不是“不好”，而是“還沒好”。?4. 轉化失落的方法建議 ? 寫一段比賽日記：寫下遺憾，也寫下值得驕傲的地方； ? 把失落變成行動：開始每天多練10分鐘； ? 和比自己小的隊員分享經驗，讓自己成為“別人心中的榜樣”； ? 學會安慰別人，也是在療愈自己。 “真正讓我們強大的，不是一直贏，而是在失落里也不丟掉愛與信念。” How Do We Manage and Transform Disappointment?1. First, acknowledge the emotion.“I can see that you’re really upset—that’s because you truly cared and gave it your all.”Rather than rushing to say “don’t be sad,” we first need to validate their feelings. When a child feels understood, their heart begins to soften.?2. Once emotions are calmer, help them shift perspective.“We may not be able to control the outcome, but we can control how we respond.”“Real growth happens when we can keep going, even when things aren’t ideal.”Let children see that disappointment isn’t the end—it can be a doorway to maturity.?3. Offer internal benchmarks, not external comparisons.“Were you calmer than last time?”“Did you keep going even when you wanted to give up?”“Is there something you learned that you can use next time?”Help children understand: failure doesn’t mean “you’re not good,” it simply means “you’re not there—yet.”?4. Practical ways to transform disappointment: ? Write a competition journal—record both regrets and things they’re proud of. ? Turn the emotion into action: commit to 10 more minutes of practice each day. ? Share their experience with younger teammates and become someone else’s role model. ? Learn to comfort others—because healing others can often heal ourselves.“What truly makes us strong isn’t constant success,but holding on to love and belief—even in disappointment.” 比賽有輸贏，現實有缺憾。可一個人真正的成長，往往不是從“成功”開始的，而是從某一次“不被理解、不被看見”時，依然沒有放棄熱愛。明知不完美，依然堅持熱愛，這就是你最珍貴的力量。 There are wins and losses in competition, and imperfections in real life.But true growth often doesn’t begin with “success”—It begins the moment you’re unseen, misunderstood, yet still refuse to give up on what you love.Knowing it’s not perfect, and still choosing to love it— 所有圖片來自網絡，與文章沒有對應關系。唯一的對應就是通過圖片展示武術美！ All images/photos are sourced from the internet and are not directly related to the content of the article.Their only connection is to showcase the beauty of martial arts.

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致家長、同行與行業同仁的一封信(A Letter to Parents, Colleagues, and the Martial Arts Community)

Grace Yan