《家庭中的正面管教》陳意文著讀書摘錄（完結）

潤潤媽媽

<p class="p1" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".SF UI Text"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">讀書分享第</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">3</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">天：</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">2019.06.26</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">《家庭中的正面管教》</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;"> <span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">陳意文著</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;"> <span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">第</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">1-30</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">頁</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;"></span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">讀書心得：</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">1.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">沒有一件事情只有負面意義的。</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">2.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">不要一直追尋難以達到的目標，要找到目前可以做到的事情。</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">3.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">小小的改變會帶來大大的變化。</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">4.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">成功的例外經驗可以引導我們找到問題解決的方向。</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">5.SFBT</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">是一種怎樣的方法？</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">①它是一種以問題解決為目標的思維導向</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">②它重視問題解決的行動。</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">③它努力尋找問題不發生或問題沒那么嚴重的例外情況。</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">④它極度愿意相信當事人的能力。</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">6.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">“我們可以做些什么去處理當下問題，讓問題不再繼續？”</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">7.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">充足的睡眠不但可以幫助孩子良好的發育，也可以幫助孩子提高學習效率。</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">8.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">抽時間于孩子聊天：</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">①今天什么事情讓你最快樂？</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">②什么事情讓你印象最深刻？</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">③你想和爸爸媽媽分享什么呢？</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">9.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">容許孩子有犯錯的空間，鼓勵孩子為自己的行為負責任。</span></h3><p class="p1" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".SF UI Text"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">2019.06.26</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">于鄭州</span></h3> <p class="p1" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".SF UI Text"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">讀書分享第</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">4</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">天：</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">2019.06.27</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">《家庭中的正面管教》</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;"> <span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">陳意文著</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;"> <span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">第</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">31-60</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">頁</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;"></span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">讀書心得：</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">1.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">不預設立場</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">----</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">站在孩子的立場看問題。</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">①覺察自己②安頓自己③聆聽孩子④引導孩子</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">2.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">放棄無效的方法</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">---</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">如果沒有用，做點別的。</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">①如果沒有用，就不要固著在這件事上。</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">②如果沒有用，做點別的事情。</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">③如果有用，多做一點。</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">3.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">學會與問題共存</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">---</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">事情不會只有一個面向。</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">太極圖的啟發：擴大白色而非消滅黑色：培養看到另一面的能力。</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">①請暫時不要著急消滅問題，注意孩子哪些方面做的不錯。</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">②人的價值是多元的，生命的面向也是多元的，將所有的問題都視為人生的一部分，就能坦然面對，找到辦法。</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">③換個角度看問題，會改變自己，也會感動別人。這樣能為自己和別人帶來好結果，也許不是最滿意的結果，但也是最好的。</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">4.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">換個角度思考</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">---</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">沒有一件事情只有負面意義。凡事都是老天爺給我們的禮物。</span></h3><p class="p1" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".SF UI Text"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">2019.06.27 <span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">于鄭州</span></h3> <p class="p1" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".SF UI Text"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">讀書分享第</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">5</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">天：</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">2019.06.28</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">《家庭中的正面管教》</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;"> <span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">陳意文著</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;"> <span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">第</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">61-65</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">頁</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;"></span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">讀書心得：</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">焦點解決思維方式：</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">1.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">我做些什么可以讓你好一點兒</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">/</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">得到幫助？</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">2.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">如何我們前面有一把尺子，</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">0</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">代表你一點不煩惱，</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">10</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">代表非常煩惱，你給現在情況打幾分？為什么？</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">3.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">什么時候這個煩惱比較不會困擾你或是不太嚴重？</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">4.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">什么時候這個煩惱不會出現？</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">當你做了什么，讓問題看起來不那么嚴重了？</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">5.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">真是太好了，請問你是怎么辦到的？</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">6.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">另外我想再問你個問題，如果有一天（停頓</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">3</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">秒），你不再被這個問題所困擾（停頓</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">3</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">秒），那會是什么樣的狀況？</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">7.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">你怎么知道你已經解決了這個問題？</span></h3><p class="p1" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".SF UI Text"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">2019.06.28 <span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">于鄭州</span></h3> <h3>讀書分享第6天：2019.06.29</h3><h3>《家庭中的正面管教》陳意文著第66-73頁讀書心得：</h3><h3> 請父母更多的注意孩子的正向行為，無論這些行為多么微小，要專心睜大眼睛去搜尋，一旦發現，就立刻具體的贊美，讓孩子知道你看見了。這樣的做法對孩子是一種賦能的過程。通過這樣的贊美互動方式，可以讓孩子覺得他很有能力。</h3><h3>2019.06.29于鄭州</h3> <h3>讀書分享第7天：2019.06.30</h3><h3>《家庭中的正面管教》陳意文著第74-88頁讀書心得：</h3><h3>一、重新建構</h3><h3>1、意義：賦予相同事件不同的正向意義，看到事件本事帶來的正面價值，進而形成新的解決方案或行動。</h3><h3>2.態度要溫和而不強勢。</h3><h3>問孩子：媽媽/爸爸有個想法，你愿意聽聽嗎？</h3><h3>3、孩子抱怨同學小明不跟他玩時：</h3><h3>①為什么那么在意小明？</h3><h3>②和小明一起玩優點是什么？缺點是什么？</h3><h3>③不跟小明玩，孩子會收獲什么？</h3><h3><br></h3><h3>二、創造成功的經驗----讓孩子重獲信心。</h3><h3>1、小小的改變帶來大變化</h3><h3>2、“再保證”對于孩子的重要性</h3><h3>“再保證”指的是我們對孩子的表達：不管發生什么事，我都會愛你這個人；也許你的行為需要修正，但我不會因為你的行為不喜歡你。</h3><h3>3、對孩子說：</h3><h3>①對呀，爸爸媽媽也覺得那真的很難。</h3><h3>②我突然覺得發生這種事情，讓我很傷心……</h3><h3>③嗯，換成是我，我也很難過。</h3><h3>讓孩子感受到：</h3><h3>①不管發生什么事，父母永遠都愛他。</h3><h3>②不管發生什么事，父母永遠會陪他一起面對。</h3><h3>2019.06.30于新密老家</h3> <h3>讀書分享第8天：2019.07.01</h3><h3>《家庭中的正面管教》陳意文著第89-頁讀書心得：</h3><h3>一、贊美的公式：</h3><h3>1.孩子名字（如：潤潤）</h3><h3>2.孩子做的具體好行為（如：媽媽今天見你主動寫功課）</h3><h3>3.自己的感受（如：媽媽好開心）</h3><h3>4.問孩子（你是怎么做到的）</h3><h3>5.如果……（孩子的正向他人）知道你……，他會說些什么？</h3><h3>（如果爸爸知道你今天主動完成功課，他會說些什么）</h3><h3><br></h3><h3>二、相信孩子有解決問題的能力。</h3><h3>（一）父母可以常問孩子：</h3><h3>1.我做點什么可以讓你覺得好受一點？</h3><h3>2.什么時候你的問題比較不會出現？</h3><h3>3.當你做什么的時候，問題比較不會困擾你？</h3><h3>（二）當孩子有困擾時，請試試下列做法</h3><h3>1.先給孩子一個擁抱或者拍拍他的肩膀。</h3><h3> 孩子的反應：……</h3><h3>2.問他怎么了，發生了什么事情？</h3><h3> 孩子的回答：……</h3><h3>3.仔細聆聽孩子說的話，做一位好聽眾，不評論不打斷。孩子的反應：……</h3><h3>4.問孩子是怎么思考怎么想這件事？</h3><h3> 孩子的回答：……</h3><h3>5.請問孩子他現在想怎么做？</h3><h3> 孩子的回答：……</h3><h3>2019.07.01 于新密老家</h3> <p class="p1" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".SF UI Text"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">讀書分享第</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">9</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">天：</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">2019.07.02</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">《家庭中的正面管教》</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;"> <span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">陳意文著</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;"> <span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">第</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">109-123</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">頁</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;"></span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">讀書心得：</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">一、澄清目的，行為，代價</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">1.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">父母不要問孩子：你為什么要做這件事？</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">可以問孩子：你做這件事時可以得到什么？</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">2.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">現在我能為你做點什么你會覺得好一點？</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">3.…</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">這么做會讓你得到這么多不好的結果</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">…</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">4.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">與孩子討論用不同的行為來達到想要的目的（如要達到很爽的感覺，除了考</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">0</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">分，還有其他方法嗎？或者還有其他行為讓你感覺很爽？）</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">二、找到不同的合作方式：沒有不合作的孩子，只有不懂得方法的父母</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">（如果孩子放學回家一直玩電腦，不愿意寫功課，如何處理）</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">1.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">告訴孩子這么做一定有一個理由，問孩子：你這么作一定有一個重要理由，那是什么？</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">2.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">與孩子一起討論較好的時間分配，離上床睡覺還有多長時間，具體要做幾件事情，如何分配時間。</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">3.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">將每件事情分配到的時間依序執行。</span></h3><p class="p1" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".SF UI Text"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">2019.07.02</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">于新密老家</span></h3> <h3>持續讀書分享第10天：2019.07.03</h3><h3>《家庭中的正面管教》陳意文著第124-152頁讀書心得：</h3><h3>SBFT三大架構：</h3><h3>一、奇跡問句：（假設解決架構）</h3><h3>最常見問句：</h3><h3>1.奇跡發生問句：如果奇跡真的發生，你的問題都獲得解決，你的生活將會有什么轉變呢？</h3><h3>2.結局式問句：如果課程結束，你覺得很有收獲，那是因為在這幾天課程中的學到了什么對你很有幫助呢？</h3><h3>3.猜想式文句：想想看，如果下周你來時，你告訴我你想改變的已經發生或是發生一點點，那會是什么？</h3><h3><br></h3><h3>二、目標架構（即孩子想要的目標）</h3><h3>（問：我可以做些什么，讓你更快樂些？）</h3><h3><br></h3><h3>三、例外問句：耐心引導孩子找到成功的例外</h3><h3>孩子做不好的事情時問：你這樣做對你的幫助是什么？</h3><h3>孩子：老師，你是不是要告訴我這樣做很不應該？</h3><h3>老師：我倒沒這樣想，你怎么會這樣想？</h3><h3>Skills:</h3><h3>1.哪些時候，這些問題不會發生？</h3><h3>2.那時候，你的想法或做法有什么不同？</h3><h3>3.以前有沒有類似狀況，那時候你是怎么處理的。</h3><h3>2019.07.03 于新密老家</h3><h3><br></h3> <h3>持續讀書分享第11天：2019.07.04</h3><h3>《家庭中的正面管教》陳意文著第153-159頁讀書心得：</h3><h3>重視細節：</h3><h3>1.交往中安頓好自己的心情很重要。</h3><h3>2.你……，一定有一個重要的理由。</h3><h3>3.重視咨詢對象的主觀世界。</h3><h3>4.和咨詢對象討論…之后自己要付出的代價。</h3><h3>5.贊美孩子自己解決問題的能力（怎么可以這么有智慧，你是怎么想到的）</h3><h3>5.支持與鼓勵可以讓人走的更遠：小寶，這幅畫構思的太好，你是怎么做到的？</h3><h3>2019.07.04于鄭州</h3> <p class="p1" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".SF UI Text"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">持續讀書分享第</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">12</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">天：</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">2019.07.05</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">《家庭中的正面管教》</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;"> <span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">陳意文著</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;"> <span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">第</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">160-173</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">頁</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;"></span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">讀書心得：</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">一、因應問句</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">---</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">幫助孩子從谷底上升</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">如：小明，在你告訴我不喜歡寫功課的情形下，還是每天準時交功課，老師想知道你是怎么做到這些的？</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">你是怎么熬過來的？你是怎么撐下去的？你是怎么愿意繼續持續的？為什么沒有變得更糟？</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">二、一般化技巧</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">---</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">幫助孩子放下過于焦慮的情緒</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">1.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">使孩子明白每個人活著都有其問題，不是只有他有問題，讓他對于自己有問題這件事情不要過度擔心。</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">2.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">使孩子覺察自己的問題也常常是別人的問題，可以緩和孩子對自己問題的焦慮情緒。</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">3.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">要讓孩子放下焦慮，留著力氣解決問題。</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">常用語：</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">1.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">大多數人也會如此</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">……</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">2.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">一般人遇到</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">……</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">也可能做與你類似的事情</span></h3><p class="p1" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".SF UI Text"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">2019.07.05</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">于新密老家</span></h3><p class="p3" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".SF UI Text"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); min-height: 20.3px; white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;"></span><br></h3> <p class="p1" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".SF UI Text"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">持續讀書分享第</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">13</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">天：</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">2019.07.06</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">《家庭中的正面管教》</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;"> <span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">陳意文著</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;"> <span class="Apple-converted-space"> </span></span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">第</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">174-181</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">頁</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;"></span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">讀書心得：</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">【</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">19</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">】關系問句：善用重要他人對孩子的影響力</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">1.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">初見咨詢對象，想要較快找到他需要協助的地方。</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">（</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">1</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">）是誰請你來找我？</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">（</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">2</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">）他有什么煩惱跟你有關？</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">2.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">搜集資料，以及了解孩子生活周遭其他人對他的看法。</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">（</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">1</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">）如果今天我請你同學來介紹你，你猜他會怎么形容你？</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">（</span><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">2</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">）如果你的班主任在這里說他的學生有什么優點，你猜他會說哪些關于你的優點？</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">3.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">給予當事人支持與鼓勵</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">1.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">問努力學習缺得不到方法的孩子：如果你的班主任來到這里，看到你這么難過，你想他會對你說些什么？</span></h3><p class="p2" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".PingFang SC"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">2.</span><span class="s1" style="font-family: ".PingFangSC-Regular"; font-size: 17pt;">問一個努力缺得不到認同的孩子：若是你的同學知道你為了和他教朋友，用心的做了這么多事情，你猜他會說什么？</span></h3><p class="p1" style="font-stretch: normal; line-height: normal; font-family: ".SF UI Text"; color: rgb(69, 69, 69); white-space: normal; -webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(26, 26, 26, 0.301961); -webkit-text-size-adjust: auto;"><span class="s2" style="font-family: ".SFUIText"; font-size: 17pt;">2019.07.06</span></h3> <h3>持續讀書分享第14天：2019.07.07</h3><h3>《家庭中的正面管教》陳意文著第182-189頁讀書心得：</h3><h3>【20】量尺問句：幫助孩子在評估中覺察自己。</h3><h3>1.也可用物品或符號代替分數如哭臉笑臉等。</h3><h3>2.尺的兩端要一致。如1是有一點點開心，10非常開心。不能1不開心，10超級開心。</h3><h3>3.沒有0，暗示孩子再怎么樣都有一點點。</h3><h3>4.孩子動刻度不要糾正他們，可以是1-100。</h3><h3>2019.07.07</h3> <h3>持續讀書分享第15天：2019.07.08</h3><h3>《家庭中的正面管教》陳意文著第190-206頁讀書心得：</h3><h3>【21】挑戰任務：讓孩子的成長更深化</h3><h3>1.為了建了孩子的成功經驗，任務要從簡單開始，選擇比較容易成功的任務先做。</h3><h3>2.讓孩子挑戰的任務必須符合孩子的經驗和要求。</h3><h3>3.一定要與孩子討論，而非大人單方面決定做什么任務。</h3><h3>4.不要盯著任務是否完成，而要通過這個過程促發展或延續改變。</h3><h3>2019.07.08</h3>

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